Things I hate about Parenting

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Things I hate about Parenting

Hate is too big a word to be used lightly. I really don’t hate things, I dislike things or food, even people. But, with all honesty, I hate parenting.

Now, hold your horses, and please hold off calling child services on me. I hate parenting but I do not hate being a mother. I love being a mom, I love my two sons. My boys are my world and I wouldn’t change where I am in life for anything in the world.

It is the parenting community which I hate. I still can’t understand how people think it is OK to be mean and mistreat other fellow parents. It just baffles me.

These are the things I hate about parenting:

Things I hate about Parenting

Body part nicknames. This is such an American thing* which I still can’t grasp. Didn’t anyone pay attention during Biology? Why is there a dire need to call a freaking penis a pee-pee, or a wee-wee? Since when did the word penis become such a taboo? Oh, and don’t get me started on vaginas…I would rather have my daughter running around the park yelling vagina than vajayjay (which sounds pretty dumb in my humble opinion). A penis is a penis. A vagina, well, it is a vagina. Do we also need to start nicknaming toes and fingers?

It is amazing that you can’t say either penis or vagina on national television but you can freely call someone a bitch.

 

Things I hate about Parenting
Judgamental parents. I have never had anyone come up to me and judge me for whatever reason they felt necessary. I have, although, had two mothers make a snarky comment on how they don’t give their kids sugar, rolled their eyes at me, and leave. I have seen and heard countless stories of other mothers, nonetheless, judging other fellow moms for the way they are raising their kids. From breastfeeding to discipline, to whatever they could nick-pick on.

I didn’t have a hard time breastfeeding. My oldest weaned himself when he first tried apple juice when he was 8 months old. J, almost 3 (yikes) stopped after I got mastitis. But you won’t hear me going off on other mothers who choose to bottle feed or have opinions against breastfeeding. If a mother wants to breastfeed, good for her. If she wants to use formula, good for her. Why do you feel the need to get in their business and give them a lesson on what they are doing wrong? Shouldn’t you go back to rising your own child, who probably is making a mess with the baby powder or eating the dog food? Shouldn’t you be more attentive to what you are doing wrong instead of trying to make yourself feel better about what you are doing right? You have no freaking clue what others are going through…maybe the mother who couldn’t breastfeed had breast cancer and simply can’t do it. Maybe she tried for countless weeks but she didn’t produce any milk. Maybe she is an adoptive mother, or a step mother.

Does breastfeeding equal mother? Did I miss something?

This could go on and on…and don’t even get me started on that stupid Times article. I am mom enough because I love and care about my children, not because I let them drink from my boob. If that is what motherhood is all about to you, then I feel so sorry for you.

 

Things I hate about Parenting
Show and tellI can’t stand when people feel the need to show off how awesome their kids are. From what they wear (do they even realize that a freaking shirt their kids will wear at least twice, if they are lucky not to stain it in the first 5 minutes of wear, costs no less than $25), to what they eat (“I don’t give sugar to my kids” blah blah blah, well I do, so what?!), to sleeping schedules and potty training adventures. If your kid is so freaking awesome kudos, good for you! Mine is probably better than yours but you don’t see me shoving this fact on your face, now do you? I would rather enjoy my awesome kid that listen to you brag about yours. You still want to give it a go? Well, get ready to listen to me talk about how my boys skipped crawling and started walking at 9 months. Or that they can jump off the playground without cracking their heads open, or how about how much they love to tackle each other, or the fact that my oldest son has such a mean arm that he could easily be the best QB of their generation. Or how about the countless poop, booger, and many other gross stories and jokes I can share?! No? Didn’t think so.

 

Things I hate about Parenting
Celebrities thinking they are awesome parents because they are famous. Giselle Bundchen and Amanda Peet (and Gwyneth too), please shut up! There is no freaking way that your child was potty trained at 6 months of age. It is not biologically possible. Why? Well, that thing that holds the pee, you know, the bladder, is not strong enough to hold pee at 6 months of age. Gosh, not even at age 2 is that freaking muscle that strong! So shush! And Miss/Mrs (I dunno) Peet, do you really think I am a parasite for not vaccinating my kids?  Well, think of it this way: if there is a measles epidemic and your kid has all her shots up to date, who do you think will get sick? My kid. Plus, if you are OK with filling your kid’s developing bodies with viruses (both dead and alive) then go for it, your decision, please let me make mine. So, please give yourself a pat on the back and put a penny in your “Good Mom Jar”. I don’t call you names for being such a lame actress, now do I?  And Gwyneth…well, she is on a league of her own.

 

What aspects of the parenting community annoy you the most?

 

* I was born and rasied in Mexico where a penis and a vagina are called just that. We don’t nickname body parts (at least not where I grew up, Guadalajara).

24 Comments
  • Maggie C
    September 11, 2012

    I agree with all of your points, but mostly the one about breastfeeding. You said it so well!!!

  • Scarlett Rose
    September 11, 2012

    This CRACKED ME UP! You make some very great, very real points here, though (especially about names for body parts!) And ever since I heard Giselle Bundchen open her mouth about parenting I can not look at her without getting ANGRY

    • Sofia
      September 11, 2012

      I’m with you! Every time I see her I can’t help but roll my eyes! If it is not a parenting is something dumb about how awesome her self and husband are and how crappy everyone around them are (like that one time she criticized the entire Patriots team for loosing a game, and how it was their fault and not Tom Brady’s who totally sucked on that game)…some people are straight annoying…

  • Bre Dale
    September 11, 2012

    What a great post! Loved it! I am a parent to be so I’ll have to get back to ya on that!

    • Sofia
      September 11, 2012

      ;) Hope it all goes well!! SLEEP, sleep, and sleep!! You’ll need it!! :D

  • julieann r
    September 11, 2012

    This post was great and made me laugh. I, too, can’t stand a lot of the same things you mentioned here. What irks me the most is people butting their noses in my parenting business when it doesn’t concern them. Everyone has a different style of parenting….that’s why we’re all so wonderfully different. Just because I do things different doesn’t make me some sort of monster or freak or anything else. Now, there are times when there is just downright bad parenting and there’s no question about it, but most of the time it’s just different views. I’m just happy that we have some upstanding parents to lead our next generation and negate some of the bad and missing parenting.

    • Sofia
      September 11, 2012

      Word! We are all different, and we all have to deal with our own problems, why people feel the need to shove their nose in other people’s business is something that baffles me. Mind your own business people! :D

  • Kelly R.
    September 11, 2012

    I tweeted and shared this with my Google circles, this is really a post worth sharing. I agree, especially regarding people judging other parents; I believe in the old saying about “until you walk a mile in my shoes”.

    • Sofia
      September 11, 2012

      Aww, thanks for sharing! :D And I’m with you: “whatever rocks your boat”

  • Katie
    September 11, 2012

    You hit the nail on the head. I can’t stand the “my kid is better than yours” thing. It gets worse in grade school. There is one lady I know who will actually ask my daughter what she is reading, then tell her that her daughter read that book in 2nd grade…blah blah blah. I don’t freaking care if your child can read 10 grades above her actual grade!!!! My daughter is reading, that is all that matters. And to make my daughter feel less than smart….watch out! Mama Bear protects her cubs.

    • Sofia
      September 11, 2012

      Wow, some people are insane! That lady should fight with someone her own size!

  • Amber Edwards
    September 11, 2012

    Honestly I can’t stand celebrities who think they are the best parents in the world just because they have fame and money to give their kids everything they want. that doesn’t make them a better parent than me! I love my kids, I sacrifice a lot more for my kids. They don’t have to give up much to cater to their kids, us regular moms give up a lot more.

    Great article.

    • Sofia
      September 11, 2012

      I am pretty sure famous parents give their kids whatever they want just to fill the void of their absence…money and fame has nothing to do with how great a parent you are. I agree with you, normal parents are selfless. Thanks for your comment!

  • Chelsey
    September 11, 2012

    All though I agree with most of your points, I do have to disagree with not getting vaccinations. If you think about it, if everybody got the vaccination for whooping cough, there would not be a whooping cough epidemic. There wouldn’t be countless kids getting sick and dying all because they weren’t old enough to get the vaccination or other kids parents thought vaccinations were pointless and dangerous. How do think the parents of a lost child feel about vaccinations. I completely agree that all parents have the right to make their own decision and raise their children the way the, please as long as it doesn’t hurt their children the lives of others. I believe vaccinations are very important for the safety and well being of all children and adults. Okay my rant is over. Very well written article:) Love you Sofi!

    • Sofia
      September 11, 2012

      I get your point, and respect it. Vaccines are a double edged sword. On one side, yes, you protect your children from getting sick (sort of) but vaccines are not only dead viruses but alive viruses that could cause more harm than good. On the other side, vaccines have been linked with autism. I would rather my kids have chicken pox than autism (and my heart and love goes to all the parents of autistic children).

      Love you too! It is nice to read a comment from you ;)

      • Chrissy
        September 19, 2012

        Looking at the vaccines debate as merely about chicken pox is a bit too simplistic and semi-irresponsible.
        It’s about preventing illnesses that have been proven to kill people. The issue isn’t about your kid getting measles or pertussis (whooping cough) but your kid transmitting these infectious and contagious diseases to people that are immunocompromised like people undergoing cancer treatments, babies who are too young to be vaccinated and the elderly to name a few.
        Not vaccinating is your choice, albeit a selfish one based on weak and retracted scientific study. And even if the science behind the claim were correct, the well-known chances of dying or passing along a vaccine-preventable disease are still higher than having an autism spectrum disorder especially once herd immunity collapses.
        That being said, I have an adult autistic brother and I understand the families of those affected by this life-changing disorder looking for someone/something to blame. My mom thought it could be pollution or power lines. Some parents claim to have “cured” their kids with special diets or mercury poisoning treatments. Could it be that the label of “autism” is too broad and is covering up a host of disorders caused by genetics and a polluted environment? I trust those in the medical community are working hard to figure this out.
        Anyways, to put it simply, autism beats an iron lung, disfiguring skin infections, a limp, oh and death.

  • Natasha
    September 11, 2012

    Love all your points! Except I did nick name my sons private as a doodle…please dont judge lol…here is my reason and I know some people wont agree and I am not bashing anyone I swear….I was raised that the clinical terms were not proper talk for society. At the doctor yes of course but it has just been passed down that we nick name our privates…my son’s is a doodle. I figure if it is the worst thing I do as a parent I am doing ok …right?

    • Sofia
      September 11, 2012

      Oh, I am not judging anyone…if you nickname their doodle is fine with me, it is just odd to me being from a different culture. My husband calls my sons’ doodle a pee-pee :S so, whatever works.

      • Natasha
        September 12, 2012

        Oh no I know your not ;0) It was a joke….you know because one of your points was judgmental parents… :)

  • Kristin Wheeler (MamaLuvsBooks)
    September 11, 2012

    Interesting post! I think one of the hardest things about parenting is when to let your kids start sticking up for themselves versus taking over the situation for them. It’s a fine line, but I hate it when other kids are not to my kids. Kids can be mean sometimes ~ It’s sad.

  • Sarah De Diego (Journeysof TheZoo)
    September 12, 2012

    Couldn’t have said it better myself. I wish people would stay “out of my bedroom”…

    I always tell people that rest assured, I care about doing the best for my kids more than any.other.person.in.the.entire.world. Period.

    I didn’t know that you were born and raised in Mexico. Thanks for sharing. We’ll have to connect further on that. My heart is and always will be in Mexico (specifically Chiapas).

    Thanks for supporting my “I Am Canadian” initiative. I hope that you will find some great and new products and ideas.

    Besos, Sarah
    Zookeeper at Journeys of The Zoo

    • Sofia
      September 12, 2012

      Thanks for your comment!! I seriously can’t stand nosey people, but oh well, what can I do. And yes, I was born and raised in Mexico and always get the “you don’t look Mexican” response (in person at least). I’ve never been to Chiapas, always wanted to. Maybe one of these days I’ll be able to take my boys back to where I grew up…just once things settle down there.

      And, if it were up to me, we’d be living in Vancouver, LOVE La ‘Couve! Lived there for 3 months and I miss it…and now I live 1hr away :S

      Besos ;)

  • Heather
    September 13, 2012

    You tell em Sofia! Loved this post. I always wonder why the breastfeeding community is so in your face about things. I view my ability to breastfeed as a privileged denied to many working moms because they simply lack the privacy or storage space to do so. My philosophy is, I don’t care how you feed your kids, just feed your kids! And eh, I’m guilty of calling it “pee pee” with the boys, I don’t know..just what I grew up with, but no way would I ever call a vagina a vajajay….stupid. Great and funny post!

  • Terri P
    September 19, 2012

    I don’t care what ‘nicknames’ people use for body parts. That doesn’t make them a bad parent. Seriously, if that’s the biggest problem a parent encounters, we’re blessed.

    Terri P