30 Things: Dear 16 Year Old Self

By Tuesday, May 7, 2013 25 , Permalink 0

Dear 16 year old self:


1There is more than one way to do your hair. Yes ponytails are easy and keep your hair out of your face. But it wouldn’t hurt to learn other hairstyles. Do not be afraid to let your hair down…let the breeze play with it. And if it gets in the way, so what?!


2Don’t let everyone’s opinion take a toll on you. Some people will not like you, but some will. But do know that as long as you are happy with who you truly are that is all that matters. Don’t let others opinions dictate who you should be or how you should act. Be yourself.


3Don’t be so scared to let yourself go. Be silly. Sing at the top of your lungs (because even at the ripe age of 28 I cannot get myself to do so), dance like nobody is looking, be a goof, and do not fear to be called a nerd again. Nerds are cool. We are definitely nerds, and proud!


4Don’t be afraid to try new things. Later down the road you will get to love to cook and bake, you will love coffee, and you will love, most of all, photography. When you get to college, do not quit your photography class!


5Make new friends all the time. Don’t only stick to the few you have. Work on being friendly and not too shy. If you don’t you will be 28 and with barely any friends you can call up in the middle of the night.


6Learn that with life comes disappointments. You will be let down, but don’t dwell on it. You will also disappoint others. But it is OK. Life is such. Never disappoint yourself, those close to you, and God.


7Stick to your guns, to your wishes, and to the path you want to follow. Going against our parents was what brought us to where I am: with a family of my own, a great husband and two amazing little boys. If you want to go against the flow, do so.


8Learn to trust others. I know we’ve been hurt and mocked by some. But trusting others is not that bad. Learn to put your faith on those that really care about you. Don’t let them go because you are afraid to open up.


9Mom and Dad do what they do, say what they say, and act the way they act because they love you. They have more wisdom and knowledge on life that you do. Listen, understand, cherish.


10Visit Grandma, aka AbueAbuelita Chela. Spend as much time as possible with her. Get to know her better. Ask her for stories of her life (try to get her to tell you her real age, good luck). She will pass away (R.I.P.) miles away from where you will be and you will wish you could have been there. So be there for her.


Abuelo Armando & Abuela Chela

My maternal Grandparents:
Abuelo Armando and Abuela Chela


What 3 things would you tell your 16 year old self?

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This was a post from my 30 Things challenge, where I share with you, via 30 posts, what makes me me!

  • J
    May 7, 2013

    I love this!! I have a hard time being silly at 27, think it gets any easier? I hope you don’t mind, but I borrowed this idea for my post today!

    • Sofia
      May 7, 2013

      Of course you can use the idea, go for it!! 🙂

  • Jadey Sam
    May 7, 2013

    I love this! I would tell myself that I shouldn’t feel so insecure, that I am beautiful in my own way.

    This is a really good idea, I will try this too 🙂 one day .

  • cindy b
    May 7, 2013

    love this! and so true! especially love the one about making new friends all the time! so imporn=tant!

  • Kristy - Savvy and Sassy
    May 7, 2013

    There are soooo many of those same things I would love to tell my 16 year old self. The only good thing is that those things have made me the person I am today. Number 10 brought me to tears, that is by far one of the most important.

    • Sofia
      May 7, 2013

      Even after 3 years of my Grandma’s passing I feel horrible I was not able to be there for her on her last hour…in fact, I was miles away enjoying a nice day at the beach. I miss her a lot, but I know she is in a better place now.

  • Suzi Satterfield
    May 7, 2013

    What a beautiful picture of your grandparents! Now the real question: would your 16 year old self have listened? 😉

    • Sofia
      May 7, 2013

      Being the stubborn person that I am, definitely not!!

  • maria @close to home
    May 7, 2013

    what a great list I wish I would have talked to my grandparents more about their lives

  • Melanie
    May 7, 2013

    Love this post! Thanks for sharing!

  • Kimberly Hughes
    May 7, 2013

    Love this post! I would tell myself to enjoy my youth and go out there and have fun and allow myself to make stupid mistakes. There’s plenty of time to be a responsible adult 😉 xxx

  • Savannah miller
    May 7, 2013

    I would tell my 16 year old self that I have my whole life ahead of me quit looking for love and just enjoy being young :/ Hmmm maybe not though I did start dating my hubby when I was 17 so it kinda worked out 🙂

  • Maegan L.
    May 7, 2013

    Thanks for sharing! I’d probably tell my 16 year old self to not be as silly. 🙂

  • Natalie Z
    May 7, 2013

    1. don’t fret over the little things
    2. there is no such thing as perfect
    3. Do what makes you happy since that’s all that really matters!

  • Sarah Bailey
    May 7, 2013

    There is so many things I could tell my 16 year old self – things that would stop a lot of pain but part of just thinks if those things hadn’t happened who would I be today?

    So I’ll just go with be more confident, don’t over think and things will turn out ok – small things with hopefully a big impact 🙂

  • Kelli Avery
    May 7, 2013

    I would tell myself that the things you think are important today will not matter in a year.
    Friends come and go, but true friendship is never lost
    Spend as much time with the ones you love cause you never know when it will be the last time.
    I know you said 3 but the fourth and most important thing I would tell myself is, if it makes you happy and hurts no one, do what you want, not what’s expected!

    • Sofia
      May 7, 2013

      Ditto!! 100% agree with your 4th: if it makes you happy and hurts no one, do what you want…and not what others are expecting from you.

  • Tabitha Vos
    May 7, 2013

    If only I knew then what I know now……

  • Kristyn
    May 7, 2013

    this is a great list of advice. I would tell my self to not worry so much about what others thought about me. Never give up my dreams for boys, Stop worrying and have fun in life

  • Nicole A.
    May 7, 2013

    I love this! I’m going to do this too!

  • Laurie - Steals and Deals for Kids
    May 7, 2013

    I love this!! I would be more carefree, spend more time with my kids (they are now grown), and be healthier!!!

  • Alaina Bullock
    May 7, 2013

    What a great list! There are so many thin gs I wish I could have known then…and so many I wish I knew now! LOL! Great post! Thanks for sharing!

  • Michele
    May 9, 2013

    Now that I am going to be 63 I think I would tell my 16 year old self to listen to the opinions of others but not necessarily follow their opinions. To fight tooth and nail to allow my hair to be long-my Mom still loves it short-I don’t! To not worry about how I look–it is who I am that is most important!

  • Lauren Ivy Chiong
    May 9, 2013

    This is a wonderful post! I think I would tell my sixteen year old self that I will find true love and have a family, I will discover my true passions and develop a strong sense of self, and I will develop wonderful friendships to treasure always.

  • Celebrate Woman
    May 9, 2013

    I would probably tell myself to have more fun. Now that I see from where I am, it’s so much easy.