The Infamous Thigh Gap

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The Infamous Thigh GapIt was a few weeks ago when I first heard about The Infamous Thigh Gap. I’m late to the party, oy vey. I am not one to scan through magazines that just shove in your face all the things you should be and all the stuff you must have. This might be the reason why as I was late to the thigh gap craze.

What is this demented thigh gap I speak of? I looked around for the best way to capture what the thigh gap is all about. The Urban Dictionary described best as the gap between a woman’s thighs directly below the vagina, often diamond shaped when the thighs are together“.

The Infamous Thigh GapThe dangerous thigh gap trend is one coveted by many pre-teen and teenaged girls all over the world. Even though skinny models are all over fashion magazines it has been thanks to popular social media sites such as Pinterest, Instagram, and Tumblr that this trend has become highly popular among young girls.

Tumblr has a vast amount of pro-ana (pro anorexia) and thigh gap advocate pages that incite girls to starve themselves to reach this unhealthy goal. It is scary and sad, all at the same time, for girls to aspire to be anorexic. The media has instilled this ideal of what we should look like in young girls and woman (of all ages). No matter how hard one can tries to meet that ideal we always fall short. You are either too skinny, not skinny enough, your thighs touch, your eyes are crooked, your ears are not aligned. There is always something wrong.

It just makes me sick.

Read: The Thigh Gap – Thinspiration for the Body Image Obsessed

 

Thigh Gap: I got itEven though I had never paid any attention to this ill trend, nor do I condone it, I must confess that I, my self,  have a thigh gap. Yup, that’s me in the picture above. Me and my thigh gap!

But….

The reason why I have a thigh gap is because I am bow-legged.

The Infamous Thigh Gap The Infamous Thigh GapYup, my deformed legs (according to Wiki’s definition of bow-legged) is what causes a medial angulation of my femur and tibia which, therefore, causes the gap. Trust me, I would never aspire to have a thigh gap….there are one too many chocolate cakes with my name written across them for me to even care about this darn gap.

I would much rather have straight legs than a thigh gap. Darn you genetics.

 

How to attain the coveted thigh gap

So, you are not bow-legged? No need to fret! There are other ways to attain the coveted thigh gap. This video will show you how to fake a thigh gap (worth watching):


via tadelesmith

 

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77 Comments
  • Crystal @ Simply Being Mommy.com
    January 22, 2014

    Well I’ll be upfront and honest and say that I do not have a thigh gap. I am normal weight, but my thighs touch. I hate things like this because my daughter is so easily influenced by what she sees. It just makes me that more diligent about letting her know she is perfect just the way she is.

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      It is sad to say that we live in a very vain world. No matter how hard you try you are never good enough; you are either too skin, or too fat, or too short, or way too tall. There is no “perfect” in this society. It makes me sick. And our kids are the ones to pay. The media, magazines and the fashion industry are definitely to blame.

      You keep up the good work, your daughter will follow your example and she will know, I sure she does now, that she is perfect no matter what.

  • Mel @ Outnumbered 3 to 1
    January 22, 2014

    I can’t believe it’s a trend now! When I was a teen, girls with a “thigh gap” were called easy!

    • Sofia
      January 23, 2014

      Even if you were bow-legged?! Hehehe, when I was teen I was a size 8 so there was no gap. Isn’t it sad? A thigh gap plus sticking collarbones and hip bones. Yuck.

  • Ellen Christian
    January 22, 2014

    I had no idea. I did have a thigh gap when I was in high school. No more though.

  • Kelly Hutchinson
    January 22, 2014

    I have never had a thigh gap and worried about this about 20 years ago. Could care less today but my teenager does. Very relevant for her age group.

    • Sofia
      January 23, 2014

      There are healthy ways to attain the thigh gap. There are a lot of thigh exercise routines that will make the thigh muscle leaner. But if a girl needs to starve herself then that is a sign that it will be anatomically impossible for her to have a gap.

  • valmg @ Mom Knows It All
    January 22, 2014

    I didn’t have a thigh gap when I was a teen swimming competitively twice a day. I didn’t care. I don’t have one now. I still don’t care.

  • Lisa Trudell
    January 22, 2014

    There has to be a balance to everything. Girls are so impressionable. I don’t have a gap now. I want to get healthy and fit , but that’s what matters.

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      That they are! We should value being healthy and happy over perfection. Perfect is overrated.

  • Amber Edwards
    January 22, 2014

    This is another reason why I refuse to allow fashion magazines into my home. If the fashion trend has to deal with your body and not just the clothing; then it’s a no-go in our home. I don’t need the extra pressure to feel horrible about myself and I don’t want my daughter faced with all that at such an impressionable age. It’s so sad that they put so much pressure for people to look a certain way; instead of just focusing on your own beauty.

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      I have two boys. But I am like you, I don’t have fashion magazines at home. I don’t need to put myself to dwell on whether or not society deems me perfect or fashionably acceptable. I am bow-legged, one ear is higher than the other, my shoulders are not aligned, but I am happy as can be. My husband thinks I am beautiful and perfect, so there. His opinion is the one that matters.

      You keep doing what you are doing and you will daughter will follow your example. 😀

  • Angela Kinder
    January 22, 2014

    To dig deeper into the pro-ana war, there is even a pro-ana website that teaches these young men and women to be anorexic. Some of their weight goals are lower than 90lbs, which is scary! It is sad that we live in a world where being anorexic is being pushed as acceptable where us plus-sized women are being chastised.

    I personally don’t have a thigh gap, even though I am also bowl-legged. I think my mom is bowl-legged, which is where I got my genetics. Even if I wasn’t bowl-legged, I have no desire to have a thigh gap. I like my thighs.

    Now I will get off my soap-box.

    • brett
      January 22, 2014

      there are hundreds, probably thousands of pro ana sites out there.. have been for years and years. i used to work for a psych practice which specialized in the treatment of eating disorders. it starts so young. i remember an 8 year old who would go jog in place in the bathroom to burn off her lunch calories (salad!) while her mom had parent sessions. heartbreaking

      • Sofia
        January 22, 2014

        That is just so sad. Probably the mother doesn’t even notice what her daughter is going through. 8 years old is too young. She should be smuggling chocolate bars from the candy drawer and enjoying being a child.

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      This world can be so scary. 90 pounds?! would have to loose 45 pounds (that is what my 5 year old weights) to get to 90 pounds. WOW, I am speechless.

      It is sad to think that people are being told time and time again that they are not worth anything unless they are skin and bones.

      Now, where’s my BBQ Burger!

  • Kayla @ TheEclecticElement
    January 22, 2014

    I really wonder where this country is going a lot of the time, especially when it comes to social media and the news. They’re portraying a lot of the WRONG idea to young, impressionable girls who are just cultivating their self esteem and learning who they are at a young age.

    Both my thighs stick together like they were super-glued and I’m proud! Of course I’m working on toning up my body a little better but by no means does that mean I want a ‘thigh gap’.

    BTW, I’m legitimately crying I’m laughing so hard at that video!

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      No matter what no one will ever reach the level of perfection society and the media tell us is beautiful. By the point you have a thigh gap they would have moved on to something crazier: elf ears, dragon scales, fish eyes. They will keep changing the ideal of beauty. Soon we should all look like a tall, skinny, smurf with scales and elf ears. Or, you know, you will not be beautiful….blagh.

      And I am glad you liked the video!! 🙂

  • cindy b
    January 22, 2014

    Wow i had no idea that could cause the gap! You have amazing legs! I wish I had the gap! 🙂

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      Hahaha, thanks Cindy!! I’ll trade my gap for straight legs 🙂

  • Jessica
    January 22, 2014

    I do remember having a thigh gap in early high school and then when I no longer had one, but that is all part of becoming a woman and going through puberty. Unless you are bow legged. There were only a couple girls who had a thigh gap those last couple years in high school but that was because 1 was bow legged, another was anorexic, and the other was just a tiny thing and didn’t hit puberty until she was 17.

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      In some people the thigh gap is normal (bow-legged people like me!). It is just scary that girls go the extreme to have a gap.

  • Janel
    January 22, 2014

    I didn’t even know such a thing was a worry. Isn’t it completely normal for them to touch?? So weird the things people decide make you more “beautiful”.

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      It is!! If your bone structure is correct, as in not deformed, your thighs are meant to touch. I have bow-legs, deformed femur and tibia, which cause my thigh gap.

      IMHO, as long as you know, and believe, that you are indeed beautiful you are more than perfect.

  • Michelle F.
    January 22, 2014

    It’s sad all the things a teenage girl worries about. Life was a lot simpler and not so skinny back then.

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      Miss those days too! Now girls live to attain the ideal of perfection. Life used to be much easier.

  • Keara B.
    January 22, 2014

    I’m athletic and have never been overweight, but I’ve also never had a thigh gap. This is such a strange and sad concept to me, and quite frankly it scares me a little bit to be raising a daughter in a culture that promotes such unhealthy ideals. Thanks for opening the conversation about this… and thanks, too, for the video. Definitely gave me a good laugh. I can only hope that more girls will begin to see how ridiculous the thigh gap phenomenon is!

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      Girls are so impressionable. As long as you instill a healthy lifestyle at home your daughter will do great.

      And that video IS amazing! Best video I’ve seen in awhile.

  • Anna M
    January 22, 2014

    I remember in middle and high school I was so envious of those girls with a thigh gap. While I wish I had less rubbing between my thighs now, I don’t wish to be disgustingly skinny. It’s where I hold most of my body fat, always have. Now I just think most women with a thigh gap are unnaturally skinny!

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      I store my fat around my belly (like a momma kangaroo), hehehe! Too skinny is ugly. Why can’t we all just be happy with the bodies we got and enjoy a very nice burger together!!

      (Can you tell I am hungry?!)

  • Elisebet F
    January 22, 2014

    Ahhh so much about your post made me chuckle (that was the point, right?). I also laugh because I think every generation believes they’ve “discovered” something that their parents probably knew about years before. I know the thigh gap is supposed to be a trend right now, but it was huge 15 years ago with the pro-ana/mia crowd, so it’s definitely not new. Everything cycles, right?

    I had a thigh gap until I was 21 and put ten pounds on. So I think theoretically I could have one again (since I have the right hip/leg bone structure)…but I’d have to lose 15 lbs. or so at this point. Also, since I’m running and working out more, I’m building muscle there. My thigh gap may be gone for good. Oh well! I’ll take my muscles.

    =D

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      It was definitely meant to make you chuckle! That video alone made me want to write this post. I’ll take muscles over thigh gaps any day!! Darn you bow-legs!

  • Our Family World
    January 22, 2014

    Wow, it’s amazing what part of their bodies people get obsessed over!
    ~ Kimberly

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      I know, right!? And here I am looking into the mirror staring at my uneven ears (which make my glasses look funny on me since they are sort of sideways). Gotta get my sh*t together. Probably society will start complaining about toes telling you that your second toe being longer than your fat toe is pure perfection. *eye roll*

  • Joanna Sormunen
    January 22, 2014

    I think all those photoshopped pics on magazines should have a warning like cigarets. Instead of this causes cancer, they should put, this causes anorexia, hairloss, premature wrinkles and bad skin.

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      Great idea!! Or maybe they should have a plastic-like page where you can lift it and see the real photo. Oh, and we cannot forget crankiness and loss of your period among other things (probably bad teeth as well).

  • Heather
    January 22, 2014

    My ex pointed this out to me a few years into our marriage. He told me my gab was disappearing. Now you probably know one reason why he’s my ex. 😉

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      Good for you!! I would trade my gap for straight legs! 🙂

  • thesellerfrank
    January 22, 2014

    nice video you made, it make me laugh though this tight gap issue are common.

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      That is a video I found on Facebook. But yeah, made me laugh too. It puts a twist to the thigh gap

  • Angela
    January 22, 2014

    I had no idea there was such discussion going on. As a plus sized woman, that gap was filled many years ago.

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      I first learnt about the thigh gap on Tumblr (where I go to procrastinate) and one day going through my Facebook feed I saw the video I added to the bottom of the post. I have a thigh gap but little did I know it is highly coveted among young girls. I just thought my gap gap was part of being bow-legged. But it is definitely something young girls aspire to have, that as well as collarbones and hip bones. In other words society is telling girls they should be walking skeletons.

  • becca
    January 22, 2014

    well i’ll be honest i don’t have a thigh gap which i’m ok with as i’m that much closer to being a mermaid

    • Sofia
      January 22, 2014

      Ooh, that is a great way to see it!! I would much rather be a mermaid than super skinny.

      Team Mermaid!! 🙂

  • Nancy @ Whispered Inspirations
    January 22, 2014

    I think it’s unhealthy to strive to have a thigh gap. If you were born that way, you embrace it. You’re beautiful, so no worries there. 😀

    • Sofia
      January 23, 2014

      Aww, thanks! 🙂

  • Kathleen
    January 22, 2014

    Thigh gap? Never heard of it. I’m overweight so both my thighs touch each other completely. I’d like them to not rub together so much but I don’t care about a gap!

    • Sofia
      January 23, 2014

      I have one because my legs are deformed (bow-legs) otherwise I wouldn’t have one and even with one, I have better things to worry about…like what to have for dinner!

  • Nikki
    January 22, 2014

    I am a thin girl and don’t have to worry about this. However, I am a mother of a daughter and 2 sons. I don’t want my boys to learn from the media that a girl with a little extra weight can not be a good girl. I don’t want my daughter to think she needs to starve herself skinny.

    • Sofia
      January 23, 2014

      I have two boys too and I want them to grow up loving woman for who they are and not what they look like. We have to teach, and show, girls that healthy is waaaaay better than skinny.

  • Chubskulit Rose
    January 22, 2014

    Gladly I don’\t have it but even if I do,m I won’\t care anyway. There are so many things to spend our precious time rather than spending time worrying about that darn thigh gap lol.

  • mel
    January 22, 2014

    I really had no idea. I had a thigh gap early on but not anymore. I agree, so many others things to worry about:)

  • Kathy Balman
    January 22, 2014

    Great post I love the honesty. I have a thigh gap but honestly never put thought into that part of my body. I am tall thin and tall, but totally not perfect… my boobs are too small, lol.

    • Sofia
      January 23, 2014

      I have one too but I thought it was collateral to my bow-legs, little did I know it was so sought after. Now my boobs…they are different cup sizes, now that is a real issue (for me at least)> 🙂

  • Nova S
    January 22, 2014

    nope it’s impossible for me to have a thigh gap…the video is hilarious…definitely easy fake thigh..

  • Jennifer Soltys
    January 22, 2014

    Such a strange obsession! You are right, there’s always something. Sad that young girls are starving themselves to achieve this nonsense!! 🙁

    • Sofia
      January 23, 2014

      It is not only nonsense but impossible to attain unless you starve your self! It is definitely sad and quite scary.

  • Kristin Wheeler (@MamaLuvsBooks)
    January 22, 2014

    Mine would 100% have to be a fake gap! LOL!

  • Liza @ Views From the 'Ville
    January 22, 2014

    It’s things like the Thigh Gap – and the newest incarnation, the Bikini Bridge – worry me as I raise a daughter. I want her to be healthy, but I don’t want her to strive to ideals that may not be possible. In college I worked with a couple of girls who had serious eating disorders and it consumed their life. One girl in high school even died from anorexia. The whole thing just makes me shake my head.

    • Sofia
      January 23, 2014

      Never heard of a Bikini Bridge…had to google it. And no, I don’t even wear bikinis, and having a “bridge” just doesn’t compute with me. If you are at the beach, wouldn’t said bridge allow waaaay more sand down there? Nop, give me me one piece suit!

  • Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell
    January 22, 2014

    I’ve always had that but I’ve never really given it a thought. It saddens me how girls feel pressure to look a certain way and develop disorders. 🙁

  • Tammilee
    January 22, 2014

    I have never heard of the thigh gap. I am sadden that it is such a focus

  • Nicole
    January 23, 2014

    This year? I’m getting my thigh gap back!

  • Patricia Figurski
    January 23, 2014

    The video is hilarious! Thanks for sharing!

    • Sofia
      January 23, 2014

      Glad you liked 🙂

  • Mistee Dawn
    January 23, 2014

    I don’t think I have ever had a thigh gap. I even played softball for 10 years. Some women just were not meant to be thin. Beauty isn’t a thigh gap. Beauty comes from within.

  • CrazyMom a/k/a Melanie
    January 23, 2014

    Well.. I’m thin, normal bodyweight and I never ever had a thigh gab; glad to read that MOST don’t.. I always felt like I should have it and thought I was “fat” because my thighs touch… loved your post and all the comments… made me feel normal..

    • Sofia
      January 24, 2014

      The thigh gap is definitely not normal. So your thighs are normal, they work as they should. Now mine, well, they are different story (and certainly miss each other).

  • April McGregor
    January 23, 2014

    I do not understand why would anyone wanna have a thigh gap… it’s simply unattractive.

  • Jhady
    January 23, 2014

    I have never heard of thigh gap before. It is so sad that there is so much pressure and focus on the outward appearance now a days. I hope this won’t drive people to go depress if they don’t look like what they want to be

  • Alisha
    January 23, 2014

    Won’t lie – I had no idea what ‘thigh gap’ was – now i do… and I of course had to take a look for myself… WAY too much pressure on us!

  • April @Pixie Dust Savings
    January 23, 2014

    How sad! I remember doing something similar as a pre- teen though. When I was a pre teen, it was if you can pinch any fat on your tummy you need to lose weight. Now as a I look back- though I was chubby I wasn’t as fat as I thought I was and probably would of grown up better not thinking I was as large as I thought I was.

    • Sofia
      January 24, 2014

      Young girls are very impressionable and want to be accepted so bad that they are willing to go that extra mile to “fit in”. Loving ones self is the very first step to not fall into these crazy ideals of beauty.

  • jheylo
    January 23, 2014

    I see some ladies have thigh gaps too. I agree with you about “there’s always something wrong about ourselves” that’s because we are imperfect 🙂

  • Chrishelle
    January 24, 2014

    There is always going to be that trend that makes us women feel that our body shape is inadequate. I try to teach my girls to eat right, exercise, and love yourself. Teens are hit hard to the social media image of a perfect physique. As moms we need to stress a healthy body image to our girls.

    • Sofia
      January 24, 2014

      We should definitely lead by example. 🙂

  • Lisa J Jones
    January 24, 2014

    Thigh Gap No Thigh Gap Who Cares It Gives us Character!!LOL!