J. is just like his dad, when he spaces out he zones out, he means is. His eyes won’t move, out of focus. He is just lost, somewhere, in space. And then his eyes refocus and I get him back. Huge smiles to follow.
Has this happened to you? Have you ever seen your child space out out of the blue?
Ask him to tell you a story. His voice will be low and gloomy, he will start his story with a monster by a lake. Somehow a ghost will come into the plot. And this will be scary, very scawy. Soon a troop of zombies will emerge from the Zombie Patch (aka cemetery). And at the end the hero of the story (usually his brother or himself) will save us all.
And once more I asked my self: what is going through his mind right now? What is he thinking? What fills his mind when there is nothing else to do? What does he dream about?
He has shared his dreams with me before. They are usually about dark blue monster trucks (his two favorite things in the world). But this time, he told me about monsters that needed to find another world to live because they were destroying ours. He told me how he wanted to help the monsters find a new home where they, themselves, could be happy and safe.
Every day he surprises me with something new. But I still wonder…
…what goes through a boy’s mind?
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