Spanking. The never-ending debate between parents. Some swear by spanking and look down at people who do not follow their belief. Those opposed to spanking think this makes them better parents. (Not pointing fingers. This is a generalization)**
In my opinion, and after reading all of your comments (which I am grateful for) I’ve come to the conclusion:
To each their own.
Not because I have occasionally spanked my son makes me a bad parent. Spanking in anger makes you a bad one. Yet, not setting boundaries and discipline is also bad for kids. They need to learn how to respect others. They need to know that bad behavior has its consequences. If you do not want to spank your kids there are some other alternatives:
Call time outs. This way your child will be isolated and will have time to think of what s/he did wrong. Don’t cave in to the crying. Make sure there is nothing around that can distract him. Always use the same spot for a a time out. After time’s up, make sure to explain to your kid why s/he was on time out. (1 minute per year)
Explain the consequences of bad behavior. Let your child know “there are consequences to their negative actions”.
And for those who believe that spanking is a good form of discipline:
- Never spank a child in anger.
- Never spank a child in front of others or with the intention of humiliating or embarrassing that child.
- Avoid multiple spankings.
- Reserve the punishment for serious offenses.
- Explain what misbehavior led to the spanking.
** Meant to be a generalization, like saying all men are jerks.
** If this post offended anyone, I apologize. This is my own opinion on the matter. If you have something to say leave me a comment. Please don’t waste your time on leaving hate comments, they will only crack me up!